The Wisdom of Walking With The Wise

June 25, 2012

The Wisdom of Walking With the Wise

            “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed”(Proverbs 13:20).

Wisdom is a matter of making the right decisions based on the knowledge we have. If our companions are fools and we get our knowledge from them, obviously we are going to make a lot of unwise decisions.  We are greatly influenced by the people around us.  We can’t always choose our companions.  At work or at school we have to accept the people around us.  To the extent that we are able however, we should use caution in choosing our companions.

How can we know if the knowledge we get from our companions will help us make wise decisions?  We need wisdom to know who is wise and who isn’t.  Many think that someone is wise because he thinks the way he does. We have a tendency to choose friends who are much like us.  They say “Like attracts like.”

We need to seek wisdom.   The best source of wisdom is God’s Word.  No other book offers so much wisdom.  God also offers to give us wisdom.  James 1:5 says “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.”


Spending time with the wise

We can increase our wisdom by spending time with the wise.  What means do you have for choosing wise friends?  The following are some of the most common means used by people of the world.


1.  They are wealthy

2.  They are entertaining

3.  They have a pleasing personality

4.  “I feel at ease with them.”

The thinking of the mature Christian should be:

  1.  They are mature Christians living a consistent Christian life
  2.  It’s obvious that there are things I could and should learn from them


We can learn from others without taking advantage of them.  We can be obnoxious if we keep asking questions of our friends.  It’s alright to ask a few questions, but we can learn a lot just by listening to them talk and by observing what they do.


Therefore, he that spends time with the wise is wise.  At the same time, he keeps on accumulating more wisdom.  In Matthew 11:29 Jesus invited his friends to take his yoke upon them and learn of him.  They learned from him by passing time with him.


There are ways of learning from others without spending time with them.  Sometimes they have written books.  Even though they are no longer living, we can still learn from them by reading their writings.  Charles Spurgeon was a great servant of the Lord in the past.  I have spent hours reading his writings and have learned a lot from him.




Spending time with fools

Solomon also says in Proverbs 13:20 that a companion of fools shall be destroyed.  Many have suffered much by learning from the wrong people.  In II Samuel 13 we read of the sad experience of Amnon.  He had a foolish friend.  He persuaded Amnon to rape his half sister.  Often wickedness results from running with the wrong crowd.  One, of his own accord, would never think of doing what the wrong crowd can lead him to do.  The prisons are full of people who were led into a wicked life style by foolish people.  Marriages and homes have been, and continue to be destroyed,  because people haven’t used wisdom in choosing their friends.  How unfortunate are those who are surrounded by fools!  We do well to take heed to Biblical counsel that says “Blessed is that man that maketh the LORD his trust, and respecteth not the proud, nor such as turn aside to lies”  (Psalm 40:4).  “But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat”

(I Corinthians 5:11).  “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners”

(I Corinthians 15:33). “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”  (II Corinthians 6:14)  “Thou shalt not follow a multitude to do evil; neither shalt thou speak in a cause to decline after many to wrest judgment:”  (Exodus 23:2).




Fortunate are those who have good friends.  We never have too many of them.  Proverbs 17:17 says “A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”  Proverbs 2:20 says “That thou mayest walk in the way of good men, and keep the paths of the righteous.”  Psalm 119:63 says “I am a companion of all them that fear thee, and of them that keep thy precepts.”

Walk with the wise.  They too make mistakes, but not nearly as many as the fools.


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