The Nuclear Family

October 28, 2014

The Nuclear Family

            The nuclear family is modern terminology for a traditional  family.  It means a family that is centered around a nucleus.  It consists of a father, mother, and children.  It functions orderly because there is a chain of command.

A nuclear family is not a perfect institution because it is made up of human beings who have a selfish nature.  Statistics clearly indicate, however, that it is superior to any other arrangement.  For example, the poverty rate for married couples with children is 6.4%.  For a single parent with children it goes up to 36.5%.[i]

The parents in a nuclear family usually teach moral values to their children.  Since they are in a close relationship, they have to learn how to get along with one another.  They are more likely to take one another’s well-being into consideration.  If the father is a wage earner, the children are more likely to learn and respect the work ethic.  If so, when they grow up, they will make their own way.  They learn to work together to keep the house and yard in order.  They play together and learn the value of happy personal relationships.

To a great extent, nuclear families are what made America great.  They gave stability to society.  They contributed to economic stability.  They weren’t an economic burden to society.  Seldom were they the cause of crime and violence.

The ideal nuclear family is also a Christian family.  The family is part of God’s plan for the human race.  Psalm 68:6 says, “God setteth the solitary in families.” In the New Testament we find a chain of command that holds the family together.  The man is subject to Christ.  “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God” (I Corinthians 11:3).  Wives are to be subject to their husbands.  “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). Children are to obey and honor their parents.  “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.   Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise” (Ephesians 6:1-2).  Men have the responsibility of providing for their families.  I Timothy 5:8 says, “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”  The women are to be “keepers at home.”  Titus 2:3-5 says, “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;    That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

This is God’s plan.  It is never carried out perfectly, but if it is followed faithfully it will result in a healthy, happy family.

Our society is often disrupted because of a failure to follow God’s plan for the family.  Marriages are breaking up.  That never happens without heartache and emotional trauma.  Children also suffer emotionally when it happens.  The majority of young people who take drugs and live in rebellion are from unstable or broken homes.

There are forces at work in our society that are contributing to the destruction of the nuclear family.  For example, same sex marriage doesn’t even produce children; much less children who are rightly oriented to life.  The feminist movement tells mothers that it is demeaning for them to stay at home and care for small children.  Government welfare programs compensate young mothers for having children out of wedlock.

It is now being proposed, often with legislative approval, that the “village” is more competent to raise children than their parents are.  By the village is meant government employees like school teachers, psychologists, and social workers.  If it is known that there is some social unrest in a home, social workers can come in and forcefully remove the children from the home.

When there are problems in the nuclear family it is almost always a sin problem.  It is because one or more in the family is living outside the norm of biblical morality.  It is a problem that needs to be dealt with from within the family.  Christian parents often seek counsel from their pastor.  Improper behavior on the part of children can most often be corrected by loving parental counsel and discipline.

When there are problems in the nuclear family it’s not cause for abandoning it.  The problem needs to be fixed.  Nothing else that has been tried has proven to be superior to the nuclear family.  There is no substitute for it.  Don’t give your approval to the forces that are destroying it.

If yours is a nuclear family, you need to do all you can to keep it running smoothly.  It has the potential of giving you peace, love and children you can be proud of.

A new book has recently come off the press that covers this topic in detail.  It was written by Phyllis Schlafly.  The title is “Who Killed The American Family?” It is available on line at

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[i] Statistics cited from the Phyllis Schlafly Report, Oct. 2014


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