The Demeanor Of A Good Christian

December 9, 2013

The Demeanor Of A Good Christian

“Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:31-32The fact that we are a child of God should manifest itself by our actions.  Ephesians 4:31 gives the negative characteristics, but if we put the emphasis on the positive aspects we find in verse 32, the negatives will take care of themselves.

In the above verse we see three virtues that should characterize a child of God.  The first is to be kind.  That means to take a genuine interest in the wellbeing of others.  It might be shown by means of a compliment or saying something to make them feel that they have worth.  It may mean doing something for them.  Kindness can also be shown by offering to do something for someone.

The next virtue is tenderhearted.  That means to show compassion.  It is an attempt to understand and feel what the other person is suffering.  We don’t have to go very far out of our way to find people who are hurting.  Some suffering is physical.  Much is emotional.  It is unbelievable the pain and suffering that people cause one another because they don’t know what it means to be tenderhearted.  We can prevent   and heal a lot of what hurting people suffer by being tenderhearted.

The last virtue in this verse is that of forgiving one another.  Many people are easily offended and slow to forgive.  Some even take revenge.  God wants his people to be quick to forgive.  When someone asks forgiveness of us, we should be willing to forgive and forget any harm they have caused us.  The word used here is not the most common word used in the New Testament for forgiveness.  It has a second meaning.  That is to do something pleasant or agreeable to someone.  It means to gratify.  We should find pleasure in doing something to brighten the day for someone else.

Proper conduct makes us attractive.  I Peter chapter three talks about ways women have of adorning themselves.  Peter concludes by saying in verse four, “But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”  We win the respect and trust of those around us by the way we behave ourselves.

When the ungodly denounce Christians, speaking evil of them, may your demeanor be a glaring indictment against their pronouncements.  God wants us to be a trophy of his grace, both now and in the ages to come. “But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us,    Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;)    And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus:    That in the ages to come he might shew the exceeding riches of his grace in his kindness toward us through Christ Jesus” (Ephesians 2:4-7).

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