The Longing To Be Independent

June 30, 2012

The Longing To Be Independent

            The longing to be independent is a part of our nature.  In itself, it isn’t wrong, but in excess it can cause problems.  Children often have a problem with this longing. They have to learn to submit to their parents.  Parents should take seriously their responsibility to teach their children to be obedient.  The Bible says in Proverbs 29:15  “The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.”  Unfortunate is the child who hasn’t been taught to control his longing for independence.  If not, he will have serious conflicts all through his life.  In school he will have problems respecting and obeying his teachers.  At work he will find it hard to obey the manager.  Many marriage conflicts arise because couples go on living their life without taking into consideration the well being of their marriage partner.

The longing to be independent makes it hard for us to be submissive.  That’s why many young people quit school.  They long to be free to do whatever they want to without being restrained by the demands of homework and class schedules.  Others either quite or loose their jobs because they don’t want to be tied down to a daily work schedule.  The longing to be independent explains why more and more couples enter into a common law marriage, instead of committing themselves to a legal marriage.

The longing to be independent discourages many from surrendering their life to God.  They don’t want anyone telling them what to do; not even God.  There is no way we can have the right relationship with God if we aren’t willing to accept the fact that he has the right to direct our lives.  Genuine Christianity demands that we surrender our wills to God.  Romans 12:1-2 says “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.  And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good and acceptable, and perfect will of God.”  There are believers who refrain from being members of a church because to do so puts some limits on them.

We lose more than we gain by having unlimited independence.  The truth is that we need one another.  I know, there are times when we are hurt by human relationships, but that’s not a good reason for being independent of human relationships.  The Bible exhorts us to love one another.  I John 4:11 says “Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.”  The second of the two commandments that Jesus gave to us says “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself” (Mark 12:31).  Jesus even said “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them that despitefully use you and persecute you.”

Without a doubt the unbeliever will ask, “What is there in this for me?” May I say, there is much.  In Acts 20:35 Jesus says “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”  In Luke 6:38 we find the promise “Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.”

When Jesus came to this world he gave up his independence, even to the point of dying for us.  We read of the extent of his humility in Philippians 2:8-9 “And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.

Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name:”

Yes, my friend, you can tenaciously cling to your longing to be independent and live without Christ, but Ephesians 2:12 says you will be without hope and without God in the world.  Do you realize that your desire to be independent has broken many hearts and has left you alienated from the covenants of promise and all that God can do for you?  Perhaps you think that believers are greatly restricted, with little liberty to do what they want to do.  You are mistaken, my friend.  The truth is that believers have what the Bible calls in Romans 8:21 “glorious liberty.”  In John 8:36 Jesus said “If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.”

Is your longing to be independent keeping you from the “glorious liberty” of God’s children?  If you would like to have more information about the liberty that God can give I encourage you to seek out a gospel preaching church.  They will be able to help you.

 

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