Fortunate Children

August 19, 2016

Fortunate Children

The fortunate children of this world are not those who have parents who can, and are willing to give them everything they want. Neither are they those who’s parents are willing to give them permission to do everything they want to do. In the end, they may realize that they were among the most unfortunate children.

What you teach your children is of much greater value than material things you give them. When your children are still at home it is your duty to educate them. That doesn’t mean you don’t need to send them to school. There are many lessons you need to teach them before they start to school. If you fail to teach them these lessons they will have a hard time adjusting to school and may be slow learners.

Your children need to learn to respect you as an authority figure. If they never learn to respect authority they will never be rightly adjusted to life. A civilized society can not exist unless it is made up, in the majority, of people willing to respect authority. We need authorities, and we need to respect them.

Children who have never learned to respect authority are a terror to society and a burden to their parents. If your children don’t respect you, how do you expect them to respect their grandparents if you leave them in their care? How do you expect them to obey a baby sitter? When children start to school they must be prepared to respect their teachers. Otherwise they will be a discipline problem in the school.

Respect for authority is something that must be learned. Some children are born with a stronger will than others. Regardless, their will must be broken. You as their parents must take that responsibility. If you are negligent in your duty, you will regret it after your child grows up and is constantly in trouble.

There are a number of ways to teach children to obey. Few parents are successful unless they resort at times to corporal punishment. The Bible says, in Proverbs 22:15 “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” It should always be done in love. That means that after you discipline a child you need to sit down beside him, give him a hug, and say “I’m sorry I had to do this, but I love you and I don’t want you to grow up without learning that you must obey.” Children respond to that.

Another lesson you need to teach your child is self discipline. Proverbs 13:4 says “The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.” The diligent are those who have initiative and self discipline. Children need to learn to pick up after themselves. If they aren’t willing to pick up their toys they may need to have to go two or three days without playing with them. Dirty clothes need to go in the clothes hamper. When they do a job well you need to show them love and praise.

Children need to learn the satisfaction that comes from the effort they have put forth to earn money. They don’t need to be paid for everything they do to help around the house and yard. Some jobs can be set aside for them to do for money. That way they learn to have initiative. There are always things they want, and they have much greater appreciation for them if they were able to buy them with their own money.

Children also need to learn to respect the property of others. “This is your toy, but this one belongs to your brother. You can play with it with his permission.” When they go with you to a friend or relative’s house, they should be told that they don’t have a right to open all the drawers to see what they have in them. They should be taught not to step on the flowers. They need to know that they can’t play in the neighbor’s yard without their permission. When they go to school they should know that they can’t take anything out of the lockers of others. That way they learn not to steal.

Children who have been well educated by their parents are fortunate, not just in their childhood, but also throughout their adult life. They also have fortunate parents because they will be less likely to be ashamed of what their children do.

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