August 25, 2015


In Matthew 20:15 Jesus asked the question, “Is it not lawful for me to do what I will with mine own? Is thine eye evil, because I am good?”  He asked this question in such a way that it implies that we will answer “Yes.” As a rule, most of us would agree that God has a right to do what he wants to with his own. There are occasions, however, when what God does touches us personally and we are inclined to complain and even be angry with God. This article was written for the benefit of those who find themselves in that situation.

First of all, I want to express consolation. When we suffer a loss it is only natural that we are inclined to feel hurt. No one passes through life without knowing what it is to have a broken heart more than once.

We need to know how to suffer the loss of a loved one. If not, there is the temptation to react in the wrong way. Some seek relief from their pain by throwing the blame on others. They might blame the doctor for not doing all he should have to spare the life of their loved one. Some like to think that doctors have a supernatural power to save lives. If that be true, then if someone dies, it must have been that his or her doctor was negligent. No, there is a limit to what doctors can do. I have heard doctors say that, in the final analysis, they can’t heal anyone unless God wills it. With every life there comes a time when there is nothing the doctor can do to sustain it.

If they can’t blame the doctor, they may lay the blame on God. The obedient Christian needs to be prepared for the trauma that comes with the loss of a loved one. In the Bible we are told that the length of our life is determined by God. We aren’t told how long we have to live. In Job 14:4-5 we read, “Who can bring a clean thing out of an unclean? Not one.   Seeing his days are determined, the number of his months are with thee, thou hast appointed his bounds that he cannot pass.” In I Samuel 24:29 Abigail, in speaking of David, said, “The soul of my lord shall be bound in the bundle of life.” Our life is a bundle of years, months, weeks and days. Only God knows the sum. In the Bible we read of Job, who lost all his children in one day. In Job 1:21 he said, “The Lord gave and the Lord hath taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.”

We need to accept the fact that our loved ones will not be ours forever. What happens in life is in the hands of our all-powerful and loving God. Ezequiel 18: 4 tells us, “Behold, all souls are mine; as the soul of the father, so also the soul of the son is mine: the soul that sinneth, it shall die.” The souls of our loved ones belong to God and he has a right to take them when he wants to. The better we know God, the easier it is to accept what he does. Nature testifies to the truth revealed in Acts 17:25. “He giveth to all life, and breath, and all things.” Only an intelligent being like God could design and create a universe like ours. The world is full of beauty and harmony. Along with all that God has done to create and sustain human life, when something happens that hurts me, I must believe that it also is part of his plan.

Some people, when they suffer a great loss, harden their hearts against God. They spend years; perhaps the remainder of their life, with bitterness towards God. Without realizing it, they are the losers. They haven’t hurt God in the least. They have lost incalculable blessing they could have received from God. God did what he had every right to do.

It is extremely important that we accept the counsel given in Proverbs 4:23. “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” If our heart relationship with God is what it should be, we will accept what God sends our way. Blessing and loss are both part of the “Issues of life” spoken of in Proverbs 4:23. Yes, God has every right to do what he wants to with us and our loved ones. He makes no mistakes.

We can find great consolation in the fact that this life is only temporary. Romans 8:18-20 speaks of the glorious future that awaits the child of God. “For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.  For the earnest expectation of the creature waiteth for the manifestation of the sons of God.   For the creature was made subject to vanity, not willingly, but by reason of him who hath subjected the same in hope.” Are you a child of God? If not, for you the best is in the past and the worst is yet ahead. You can turn that around by becoming a child of God. That is possible if you will do what Jesus said in Mark 1:15. “Repent ye, and believe the gospel.” The gospel is the good news that Christ died for our sins so we could be forgiven and included in the family of God. John 1:12 says, “But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name.”

This might be a good article for you to copy and give to a loved one you know who recently suffered the loss of a loved one.

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