Your Duty To Your Spouse In a Care Facility

By Russell George

Senior citizens sometimes come to a time in their life when their spouse is suffering from physical or mental problems that are so overwhelming that they can no longer care for them. The best solution may be to put him or her in a long-term-care-center. It is a difficult thing to which they both must adjust. This article was written to help you if you find yourself in that situation. My only qualification for writing this article is that I have had to deal with it because my wife has been in a care center for nearly three years.

With all trials, there is a right and wrong way to respond to them. The wrong way is to run from them. A man may say, “My wife can’t do anything for me anymore. It’s depressing to see her the way she is so I just won’t go to see her any more.” If it’s a wife facing the situation with her husband she may say, “There isn’t anything my husband can do for me anymore. Every time I go to see him he says something that embarrasses me. I think I’ll just leave him in the care of those at the care center and not go to see him anymore.”

Now let’s think of some positive ways to respond. If you love your spouse, you won’t abandon him or her. If you are a genuine Christian, you will no doubt remember that on your wedding day you made a public commitment to “love and to hold your spouse till death do us part.” You can’t go back on that promise.

It’s a terrible thing to be abandoned by the one you have loved over the years. It’s not their fault that they are where they are now. They need your love now more than they ever needed it. The least you can do is go and show them compassion and let them know that you care.

Christian couples are fortunate in that, in times like these, they can call upon the Lord for strength to endure. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” I have often told my wife that I see no reason why we can’t replace the word “do” in that verse with the word “endure.” There is another promise we can claim in Philippians 4:19. It says, “But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” II Timothy 2:3 tells us to

endure hardness, as a good soldier of Jesus Christ.” My dear wife keeps claiming promises like these and finds strength to endure. Not only does she have dementia. She also has constant pain in various parts of her body. You too can claim these promises to enable you to stand by your spouse in his or her time of need.

We may not know why God calls upon some of us to endure hardness in the later years of our life. It gives us an opportunity to experience the truth of promises of God like Isaiah 41:10. “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.” Don’t ever let Satan tempt you to think that God has forsaken you. He is with us through it all. If your mate is suffering, keep on encouraging him or her to claim and keep claiming the promises of God. We suffer with them. Great will be our reward in Heaven if we keep on trusting God until the end.

If you aren’t a child of God you can’t claim these promises of God. It’s still not too late to become a child of God. It’s just a matter of asking God to forgive you of your sin. He can do that because Christ died on the cross and took your penalty. If you become a child of God not only will he open the door to claim these promises of peace and the strength to endure the hard things you are going through, but he will also give you the assurance of a home in Heaven for all eternity. You need to make the decision to trust in Christ for salvation. Then, if your mate still has the mental capacity to understand, you can encourage him or her to make the same decision.

It’s never easy to lose our mates. We have done life together. We have shared the joys of life. We have upheld one another in times of trials. Some lose their mate suddenly. It might be as the result of an accident or a stroke. Others see the health of their mate deteriorate gradually over a period of weeks, months, even years. This article was written especially for those of you who are going through that experience with their mate.

Please, don’t abandon your mate when he or she has to be left in the hands of professional care givers in a care center. They need you now more than ever. Twice I have been a resident at a care center. Fortunately, both times it was just for recuperation after I was discharged from the hospital. When I arrived at the care center, I was so weak that I couldn’t even sit up in bed without help. Physical therapists helped me get my strength back and, after just a few days, I was able to walk out, go home, and care for myself. I can say, “I sat where they sit.”

The days are long and lonely for them. It’s a great consolation for them to know that someone cares enough to come and spend some time with them. It gives them consolation. You just need to put yourself where your mate is, and you will want to visit him or her as often as possible.

Please, for the love of God and the love of your mate, don’t abandon him or her when they have a special need that only you can meet. If we truly love our mate, nothing we do for him or her will be a sacrifice for us.

There is no copy write on this article. I don’t expect to get any remuneration from it. If some thank me because they have been helped by it, that will be sufficient remuneration.

Feel free to make copies of the article and give them to anyone you know that you think might be helped and encouraged by it.


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Family Prayer

April 12, 2019

Family Prayer

Copied from “The Fundamentalist Digest” April-May 2019 Don Jasmin, Editor

“Pour out thy fury upon the heathen that know thee not, and upon the families that call not on thy name” (Jeremiah 10:25).

Family prayer is a most important means of grace, and has often proved one of the greatest blessings which a family could enjoy. It is not enough that we pray as private individuals in our closets; we must honor God in our families.

Twice in the day if we can, at least once, every family where Jesus is professed should be called to bow before the Lord together. Parents and children, master and servants, should meet before the Lord their maker. The head of the family should lead the devotions if present, and his wife, should he be absent. Family prayer should never be omitted if there be one of the family at home who can call upon God; even if the language be broken, and the time occupied be very brief.

The gift of prayer always grows by use, and small of gift is no lawful excuse for omitting family prayer. If we cannot pray frequently, we may pray earnestly, which is better; if our language does not flow freely, we need not be long and tedious. Prevailing prayers are often short prayers.

Family devotions should generally be short, especially where there are young children. A short portion of God’s holy Word should be read; and it has often been found profitable to read a few striking remarks on some spiritual subject by an approved author. If those present can sing, a few verses of praise greatly enliven the service; if not, a short prayer, being a direct address to Jehovah, offered with feeling and fervor, under a sense of the divine presence, is very edifying and refreshing.

God approves, an enlightened conscience commends, and all areas benefited. Family prayer will prevent much sin, as well as do much good. It keeps up a remembrance of the divine presence, it brings important truths before the mind, it teaches the prayerless what prayer is, it leads children and servants to think, and brings down the blessing of God upon the house.

We are to pray with all prayer and supplications in the Spirit; but this we cannot do if family prayer is neglected. We are to pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands without wrath and doubting. This cannot be observed if we do not pray in our families. He who would excuse himself from family prayer, should expect to be excused from family blessings.

Reader, do you have family prayer in your home? If not, allow me to ask, do you profess to be a Christian? Have you considered the solemn passage at the head of these remarks? If God is to pour out his fury upon families which call not upon his name, and you have not family prayer, how can your family escape? You ought to own God in your house, and daily should you acknowledge your dependence upon Him, and obligation to Him.

All your domestic comforts, all your temporal mercies, and all your spiritual privileges, flow from His love and grace; and will you daily as a family receive, and never as a family praise? The heathens have their household gods; and will not you have your altar? Shall they honor idols of wood and stone, and must it be said of you, “The God in whose hands thy breath is, has thou not glorified.”

An old divine says, “A family without prayer is like a house without a roof, open and exposed to all the storms of heaven.” And again, “Family prayer bolts the door against danger at night and opens it for the admission of mercies in the morning.” Private prayer was never intended to set aside family prayer, nor should family prayer be made an excuse for the neglect of private prayer.

The one is for the person, the other is for the household. Both are necessary, and properly conducted, both are means of blessing. “To God most worthy to be praised, be our domestic altars raised; who, Lord of heaven, scorns not to dwell with saints in their obscurest cell.” AMEN! & AMEN!


The Best Way To Help A Fool

November 25, 2016

The Best Way To Help A Fool

Many are grieving about a son or daughter; grandson or granddaughter, who is making foolish mistakes and they long to help them. Perhaps they have tried to help them, but without success. If you find yourself in this situation, this article is for you.

The book of Proverbs has much to say about the fool. You can’t afford to be without the wisdom and knowledge the book of Proverbs offers. It will help you understand the ways and thinking of the fool. As a word of caution; it’s best not to call anyone a fool to his face. It is offensive. You can see that he is a fool, but keep it to yourself.

In the first chapter of the book of Proverbs we read in verse seven that the fool despises wisdom and instruction. “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.” The fool thinks he knows what he needs, but wisdom and instructions aren’t included. He thinks he needs money, but if he had it he wouldn’t know how to spend it. He may think he needs a job, but without wisdom and instruction he wouldn’t have any thing to offer to his employer. He may think he needs companionship, perhaps a life partner, but without wisdom and instruction he wouldn’t be able to contribute a significant part to the relationship.

Many people are hurt by the fool. He may steal from people he doesn’t know. When he drives under the influence of drugs or alcohol he may do damage to, or even kill, people he doesn’t know. Family members suffer because of him. Proverbs 10:1 says “A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.” When we see what the foolish person is doing, our natural reaction may be to say, “He or she needs help.”

How can you best help him? Logically we see that he needs to understand that what he is doing is detrimental to him and others around him. The problem is found in Proverbs 18:2. “A fool hath no delight in understanding, but that his heart may discover itself.” We can’t help him if he doesn’t want to understand.

We can teach people, but we can’t make them learn if they don’t want to. We can reason with people, but we can’t make them understand if they don’t want to. We can show favor to a fool and perhaps deliver him out of a bad situation he finds himself in, but there is no assurance that he won’t fall again into the same situation. Proverbs 26:8 says “As he that bindeth a stone in a sling, so is he that giveth honour to a fool.”

In the light of all these obstacles, how then can we help a fool? There are still two things we can do for him. The first is to pray for him. “Pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much” (James 5:16).

The second thing that can be done for the fool is to assure him that you stand by ready to help him, but only if and when he sees that he has a genuine need of help. Don’t let him fool you by making a pretense of repentance only to get a hand out from you. Explain to him that he must do his part to regain the confidence that you and others have lost in him.

Many times it is hard to be patient, especially when we see a loved one suffering because of foolish decisions he keeps making. II Corinthians 7:9-10 says that sorrow worketh repentance. “Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a godly manner, that ye might receive damage by us in nothing. For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.” Many times we have to leave the fool in God’s hands and keep praying in hopes that the time will come when he will be willing and ready to accept our help.


Fortunate Children

August 19, 2016

Fortunate Children

The fortunate children of this world are not those who have parents who can, and are willing to give them everything they want. Neither are they those who’s parents are willing to give them permission to do everything they want to do. In the end, they may realize that they were among the most unfortunate children.

What you teach your children is of much greater value than material things you give them. When your children are still at home it is your duty to educate them. That doesn’t mean you don’t need to send them to school. There are many lessons you need to teach them before they start to school. If you fail to teach them these lessons they will have a hard time adjusting to school and may be slow learners.

Your children need to learn to respect you as an authority figure. If they never learn to respect authority they will never be rightly adjusted to life. A civilized society can not exist unless it is made up, in the majority, of people willing to respect authority. We need authorities, and we need to respect them.

Children who have never learned to respect authority are a terror to society and a burden to their parents. If your children don’t respect you, how do you expect them to respect their grandparents if you leave them in their care? How do you expect them to obey a baby sitter? When children start to school they must be prepared to respect their teachers. Otherwise they will be a discipline problem in the school.

Respect for authority is something that must be learned. Some children are born with a stronger will than others. Regardless, their will must be broken. You as their parents must take that responsibility. If you are negligent in your duty, you will regret it after your child grows up and is constantly in trouble.

There are a number of ways to teach children to obey. Few parents are successful unless they resort at times to corporal punishment. The Bible says, in Proverbs 22:15 “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” It should always be done in love. That means that after you discipline a child you need to sit down beside him, give him a hug, and say “I’m sorry I had to do this, but I love you and I don’t want you to grow up without learning that you must obey.” Children respond to that.

Another lesson you need to teach your child is self discipline. Proverbs 13:4 says “The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.” The diligent are those who have initiative and self discipline. Children need to learn to pick up after themselves. If they aren’t willing to pick up their toys they may need to have to go two or three days without playing with them. Dirty clothes need to go in the clothes hamper. When they do a job well you need to show them love and praise.

Children need to learn the satisfaction that comes from the effort they have put forth to earn money. They don’t need to be paid for everything they do to help around the house and yard. Some jobs can be set aside for them to do for money. That way they learn to have initiative. There are always things they want, and they have much greater appreciation for them if they were able to buy them with their own money.

Children also need to learn to respect the property of others. “This is your toy, but this one belongs to your brother. You can play with it with his permission.” When they go with you to a friend or relative’s house, they should be told that they don’t have a right to open all the drawers to see what they have in them. They should be taught not to step on the flowers. They need to know that they can’t play in the neighbor’s yard without their permission. When they go to school they should know that they can’t take anything out of the lockers of others. That way they learn not to steal.

Children who have been well educated by their parents are fortunate, not just in their childhood, but also throughout their adult life. They also have fortunate parents because they will be less likely to be ashamed of what their children do.


The Thinker and the Tinker

February 24, 2016

                              The Thinker and the Tinker

Thinker and Tinker are brothers.  They have the same parents and live in the same house.  They get along well, but they don’t think alike.  Their names aren’t really Thinker and Tinker, but I have given them those names to illustrate the contrast between the two.  I trust you understand what a thinker is.  A tinker is a name that is often given to one who occupies much of this time in things that aren’t of great importance.  Originally the word referred to one who mended metal pots and pans.  The two boys go to the same school, but Thinker is a year ahead of Tinker.

When they get home from school Thinker most often sits down to do his homework.  Tinker likes to go down the street to play marbles with some of his friends.

One Saturday afternoon their father asked them if they would like to go along to work with him.  Their father was a mechanic.  They liked that idea.  When they got to work there was a car waiting for their father to fix.  Thinker went with his father to watch him fix the car.  His father put the car on what is called an engine analyzer.  It is like a computer that determines what is wrong with a car.  The analyzer determined that the alternator wasn’t charging enough to charge the battery.  Thinker helped his father take the alternator out of the car.  They put it in the vise on the work bench and took it apart.  They replaced a defective part and put it back together again.  Then they put it back on the car.  They started the car up and looked at the engine analyzer.  It indicated that everything was A-ok.  While they were working on the car Tinker was in the customer waiting room reading the sports magazines.  On their way home that evening their father asked the boys what they learned that afternoon.  Tinker said he learned which teams would most likely be going to the World Series.  Thinker said he learned how to fix a car.  Can you guess who learned the most practical lesson?

One summer the boys went on vacation with their parents.  Before they went, their mother suggested that it would be good for them to collect literature from all the sites of interest where they planned to go.  They did that faithfully.  The week after they returned from their vacation Thinker went to work and pasted the literature he had collected in a spiral notebook.  He also wrote some notes about each day’s activities and what he had learned.  Tinker looked at his bag of literature a time or two, but decided to throw it away because he didn’t think it was of much interest to him.

When the boys were in high school they both received new laptop computers for Christmas.  They were exactly alike.  The first day they worked together, learning how to use them.  The next day Tinker went to the app store on the computer and down loaded some fun games.  Thinker also went to the app store, but he downloaded a program for reading E – books.  While Tinker was playing games, Thinker was reading books.

It is not that Thinker never did anything for entertainment.  Sometimes he and Tinker went out in the yard and played catch.  On the cold winter days they sometimes played checkers or some other table games.  Thinker also liked to go to the ball games at school and root for the school team.

In his last year in high school Thinker worked hard at his studies so he would have time to take some on line courses.  He began studying to be a pharmacist.  Tinker used his computer to do research for some of his high school courses.  When he had extra time he played computer games.

When Thinker finished high school he continued his studies to be a pharmacist.  He got a job at a pharmacy in town. He was able to get Tinker a job stocking shelves at the pharmacy.

Which of the two boys do you think has the best future ahead of him?  Do you think that Tinker might be jealous of his brother because he had a better paying job?  Would he have a right to be jealous of him?

Young man, young lady, this article was written to motivate you to think about your future.  The way you use your time will determine where you will be ten years from now.  Some of you may even be thinking about dropping out of school.  Would that be a wise decision?  Do you think you know all you need to know to be a success in life?

In the Bible, in the book of Proverbs, there is a word that appears seven times.  It is a word that should be in your vocabulary.  It should characterize your life.  It is the word diligent.  I challenge you to read all the verses in the book of Proverbs where the word diligent it found.  They are the following:








It takes diligence to be a thinker.  Don’t be without it.

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                 Young People Need a Reason for Living

We all need a reason for living, but it is especially important that young people have a good reason for living.  It enables them to get their life oriented so they can make the best of it.

Some young people have an inadequate reason for living.  In high school some young people live to get   attention.  This gives them a fame that is like a flame that soon burns out and they are forgotten.

A life without a reason is a life without a vision.  The Bible says in Proverbs 29:18, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”   Young people without a noble reason for living are frustrated with life.  It has no meaning.  They are bored.

A life without a noble reason for living lacks motivation.  Young people have no desire to excel.  They don’t see that they will gain anything by it.  They ask, “What is there in it for me?”

A life without a noble reason for living doesn’t give satisfaction.  If one has no goals in life there will be few endeavors.  Without endeavors there will be few accomplishments.  Without accomplishments, there will be no satisfaction.

Young people need to see their potential.  An acorn has the potential of producing a forest.  A young person has the potential of producing an entire generation of benefactors to humanity.

The stigma of being a welfare recipient has been taken away.  As a result, young people are left with reason for thinking, “I’ll always have the option of applying for welfare benefits.” They don’t realize that that is taking something from humanity instead of contributing something to it. The welfare system is apt to collapse for lack of funds.  Young people need to be challenged to be givers, not takers. Jesus said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

There are many young people, as well as adults, who live for selfish reasons.  The accumulation of wealth is their goal.   When young people give consideration to a career, their primary concern is “What pays the most?”  Their concern is not “How can I best serve those around me?” It is “How can I get rich quick?”  There is nothing wrong with making money.  It can be used to serve humanity.  Most occupations serve humanity in one way 0r another.  Life with the greatest satisfaction is that lived to serve others in some way.

Young people with no good reason for living are a burden to our schools.  They don’t want to be there.  They would prefer to stay home and play electronic games.  They have no desire to learn.  They graduate regardless of whether they have learned anything.  Then they are a burden to society.

The solution to the problem begins in the home. Parents need to instill in their children a reason for living.  A life with a noble reason for living starts with a love for God and a desire to serve him. Children also need to be taught to have moral integrity.  Without it they can easily yield to temptations that will bring them to shame and defeat.  Parents who have had the most success in instilling these values in their children are those who are genuine Christians.  They take their children to church regularly with them.  There they are taught to have a Christian world view and the proper relationship to God and those around them.

We serve God by serving others.  A life lived in service to God is a life that makes a tremendous contribution to the wellbeing of humanity.  Jesus broke the Ten Commandments down to two.  They are found in Mark 12:29-31.  “And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord:   And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.    And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.”

Children need to be taught to set their sails when they are young and impressionable.  They need to be taught to have a love for others and their country.  They need to be motivated to show love to the elderly and handicapped without thinking of getting anything in return.  Young man, young lady, do you have a good reason for living?  Parents, do your children have a good reason for living.  Reflect on this article.



The Culture War

January 6, 2016

                                           The Culture War

We are in a cold war with our culture.  The sad truth is that we are losing.  We need more recruits to join us in the battle.  Will you be a volunteer?  This article is to identify the battle fronts and suggest ways of winning the war.

We need to confront those who seek to degrade and take away human and Christian values that have served us well.  We can’t afford to lose those values.  We also need to warn those we know and love of the dangers that accompany anti-social behavior.

In every battle we must identify the enemy.  The leaders in this battle are multi-cultural liberals.  They are gaining followers by disseminating their propaganda by the following means.

To a great extent, they have control over the mass media.  They give favorable news coverage to groups that condone anti-social behavior.  At the same time they deny news coverage to groups that call for a return to the moral standards that made America great.

They have a powerful influence in education, all the way from grade school to the college level.  In the grade schools they have introduced sex education which allows them to teach children that the homosexual or lesbian life style is now acceptable behavior.  In high schools young people aren’t being warned of the danger that comes from illicit sex.  If young girls get pregnant they often help them get an abortion without informing their parents.  That’s why parents need to give serious consideration to home schooling their children.  (See my articles on home schooling under “Christian Home.”) In many institutions of higher learning most all the barrios against illicit sex have been eliminated.  If you love your children you need to send them to a private college where moral standards are still upheld.  There they will get a good education without being exposed to licentious moral standards that will rob them of a happy life.

Liberals have also found that the arts are a powerful means of promoting licentious life styles.  They do it by means of movies and music.  Many young people spend hours each day listening to music that condones immoral behavior.

The new left is making a concerted effort to persuade people to lower their moral standards.  It is heart breaking to see those who once had high moral standards capitulate to the culture.  Many times parents have taught their children to have high moral standards.  In public schools, however, the good education their parents gave them is destroyed.

It is unfortunate that many in our society have a great lack of discernment.  Even many highly educated people have a lack of discernment.  Many are too proud to accept the fact that they could be wrong.  Many today walk after their evil way just as they did of old.  The prophet Jeremiah spoke of some in his day.  In Jeremiah 16:12 he wrote, “And ye have done worse than your fathers; for, behold, ye walk every one after the imagination of his evil heart, that they may not hearken unto me.”

What should alarm us most is the human suffering that results from our culture.  To be valiant in combating that which causes human suffering is a noble cause.  We are grateful for, and commend, scientists who give their life to the study of cures for diseases.  Not all suffering is caused by diseases and the mal function of the body.  Emotional suffering is equally intense.

The promoters of licentious life styles like to think they are liberating people from antiquated, restrictive moral values.  They refuse to give consideration to the suffering that accompanies those life styles.  For example:

  • No fault divorce: Every divorce is accompanied by remorse and suffering.
  • Abortion: It is against nature.  Women who abort their child can’t help but go through a time of guilt feelings.
  • Same sex marriage: It too is against nature. There is no way that two people of the same sex can experience the same satisfaction in the sex act that they could get from a heterosexual marriage.
  • The legalization of marijuana: People who take marijuana are at risk of being addicted to it, or other habit forming drugs.

These are just a few examples of suffering that results from the lower moral standards in our culture. There are multiple pleasures in life that don’t leave us at the risk of suffering.  Those who call for restraints have the best interest in mind for the well-being of their fellow human beings.  Will you join us?  God, our maker, knows what is best for us.  In Psalm 84:11 we have his promise that he will not withhold good from us.  “For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.”

(See also my other article entitled “The Culture War” under “Various Themes.”)

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                              The Tragedy of Family Feuds

Frank doesn’t speak to his brother Bill.  Charlie and Susan don’t speak to their sister Gloria.  Families are often divided because they disagree about something.  It may be that they can scarcely remember how the disagreement started, but over time the rift between them deepened.  Sometimes it is between siblings.  At other times it is even between parents and children.  It is always a disgrace and a tragedy when families are divided.

God, in his word, doesn’t give his approval of family feuds.  We read of them in the Bible.  One example is found in Numbers 12:1-16.  We read that Miriam and Aaron criticized Moses because he had married an Ethiopian woman.  It may be that Moses could have made a better choice of a marriage partner, but Aaron and Miriam didn’t handle the situation in the right way.    They went on to question whether Moses was God’s only spokesperson.  God spoke to them about it, but they refused to change their attitude toward Moses.  The result was that God Judged Miriam with the dreaded disease of leprosy.  Moses pleaded with God on her behalf and after seven days she was healed.  The progress of God’s people was hindered for those seven days while Miriam was shut out of the camp.

The New Testament emphasizes the importance of brotherly love. Romans 12:9-10 says, “Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.   Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.”

Reconciliation is the solution for a family feud.  Reconciliation is something that God requires of us.  In Matthew 5:23-24  Jesus tells us, “Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;   Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.” It appears as though, for God, our being reconciled to an offended brother is more pleasing to him than any monetary gift we offer to him.

When there is a family feud, someone in the family needs to take upon himself the ministry of reconciliation.  II Corinthians 5:18 speaks of that.  “And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation.”  In the context, it has to do with reconciling men with God, but there is also a time when we need to reconcile men with men.  The one who takes upon himself the ministry of reconciliation in a family feud may or may not be involved in the feud.  It is best that he or she be a part of the family.  It needs to be done with tact and kindness.  The factions need to be encouraged to be forgiving.  It is almost certain that wrong has been done, perhaps on the part of both factions.  Wrongs need to be forgiven.  It is a congenial and beautiful thing to see families gather together on special occasions and enjoy one another’s company.

If there is a feud in your family, you don’t need to be a part of it.  If you can’t make reconciliation, just be cordial to both sides in the faction and kindly refuse to listen to evil spoken of.  Ephesians 4:32 says “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”

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Respect For Authority

May 7, 2015

                                      Respect For Authority

A country will not long endure if there isn’t law and order.  To have law and order there must be respect for authority.  When people don’t respect authority they do whatever they want to do.  That leads to chaos and anarchy.

When we see rioters throwing bricks and beer bottles at the police we are seeing what happens when people haven’t been taught respect for authority.  The police are authority figures.  Their job is to maintain law and order.  They don’t go out and arrest people without having a reason for doing so.  If they do, our justice system will come to the defense of the innocent.  Rioting in the street is not the proper way to settle a grievance. When we recognize that we have a serious problem, because of the lack of respect for authority, we often overlook the root cause.  It begins in the home.  If parents don’t teach their children to respect authority, it will be extremely difficult, if not impossible, to teach it to young people and adults.

Children need to learn that there are limits placed on their liberty.  Perhaps parents don’t realize the importance of teaching respect for authority to their children.  It is just as much their responsibility as is the need to provide food and clothing for them.  In part, some parents can be excused because pseudo intellectuals are telling them that it is wrong to discipline their children.  They have even persuaded our law makers to make corporal punishment a misdemeanor punishable by law.  Corporal punishment speaks of the act of turning your child over your knees and spanking him on his bottom.  We are told that it will warp the child’s personality.  The truth is that a child’s personality will be warped if he isn’t taught to respect authority.

Children are handicapped for life if they haven’t been taught respect for authority.  When they reach school age their parents are obligated to send them to school.  However, if they have no respect for authority, they aren’t going to respect the school officials.  We have all heard it said, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.”  It could also be said, “You can send a child to school but you can’t make him learn.” If the teacher says, “Now this is your assignment for tomorrow…” the rebellious child may say, “This teacher isn’t going to tell me what to do.  I’ll do it if I feel like it.”

If the majority of the people in a society have no respect for authority, that society is on the verge of collapse.  We have reason to wonder if our society isn’t near that point.  If our society does collapse, much of the blame can be laid at the feet of two groups of people.  First and foremost will be the parents who didn’t teach their children to submit to authority when they were young and pliable.  The second group of guilty people will be the pseudo intellectuals who promoted the false teaching that corporal punishment is cruel.  The truth of the matter is, it is cruel not to use corporal punishment to teach a child to submit to authority.

If a policeman looks at you, puts his hand on his weapon, and says “Hands up” you better put your hands up.  That’s the only option you have at that moment.  You don’t have liberty to argue with him.  If you want to, you can try to reason with him, but while you have your hands up. Your arguing needs to be done at the civil justice court.  If you are innocent, you have nothing to worry about.  You are innocent until proven guilty.

We would be enjoying a more peaceful and prosperous society if people in general were willing to accepted and apply biblical teaching.  Romans chapter 13 tells us that it is our duty to be subject unto the higher powers.  Romans 13:1-2 says, “Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God.   Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation.”  The remainder of the chapter explains the reason for that.  In the early days of our country children were taught to submit to authority.  Back then we don’t read of anarchy like we do today.  They didn’t have public schools like we have today.  Many children were just taught by their parents.  The local parson often had a weekday school for children who wanted to learn.

The book of Proverbs explicitly teaches that it is the duty of parents to teach their children to be in submission.  The following verses are some examples of that teaching.

“He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes” (Proverbs 13:24).

“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him” (Proverbs 22:15).

“Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.    Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell” (Proverbs 23:13-14).

“The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame”  (Proverbs 29:15).

“Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul” (Proverbs 29:17).

Obviously there is a right and wrong way to use the rod.  If parents beat their child over their head with it, of course they are out of order.  If they spank them on their bottom so severely that they need two or three days to recover, again they are out of order.

We have a system of government that gives us the privilege of electing our leaders.  They are given authority to make decisions that we need to respect. If there is a breakdown of law,  order, and corruption in government it is the fault of the voters.   It is our responsibility to elect officials who will be respectable, responsible, and honest.  We need discernment to weed out the politicians who are just seeking money and power. We need to respect authority, but we need to elect authorities who merit respect.

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