Architects of Character

June 30, 2012

Architects of Character

            Every time a baby is born its parents become the architects of its character.  The child is at the mercy of his parents, not only for the provision of his physical needs, but also for the formation of his character.

There are good architects.  Now, with the use of a computer, architects con draw the front of a building and beatify it with trees, flowers and a lawn.  That doesn’t mean they are capable of finishing the plans on the interior with the installation of gas, water, electricity and telephone jacks.  Without that, the building won’t serve its purpose.  In like manner, parents who fail to instill strength of character in their children have failed.

The reason why many parents fail in the formation of character in their children is that they too are weak in that area.  If we don’t have it, it’s going to be hard, if not impossible, to give it to our children. Our children learn a great deal from our example.  To be good architects of character we need to be diligent in adding character to our lives.  The Bible exhorts us to do this in II Peter 1:5-8.  A good architect finds it to his benefit to take advantage of conferences in which he learns of the new advances in technology.  The virtues are the technology that equips parents in forming character in their lives and in the lives of their children.  Parents also need to take advantage of resources available to help them be more effective in developing character in their children.

Many times parents teach bad character traits to their children unintentionally.  They teach them to lie by telling them to tell half truths.  Again and again they threaten their children with severe discipline if they don’t obey.  When the child sees that they don’t complete with their threats, they don’t respect authority.

Provebs 22:6 commands parents to instruct their children in the way they should go. “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”  It is their responsibility.  In that verse is also the promise that the child will not depart from the way when he is old.  Parents who are negligent in disciplining their children suffer grief and shame later on when their children rebel.  Parents think they are being loving and kind to their children by tolerating their bad behavior.  In reality, they are being cruel to them because, when they get older they will refuse to respect authority.  Solomon’s advice to parents is “The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul” (Proverbs 29:15,17).

One of the best things we as parents can do for our own good, as well as the good of our children is to make a concerted effort to have strength of character.  It’s always to our advantage and will never be a disadvantage.  Some parents are in a position to leave an attractive inheritance for their children, but it consists of material thing.  The best inheritance we can leave to our children is an example of virtue.  It will help them make wise decisions.  They, in turn, can say to their children, “Your grandparents believed and practiced this and they were successful.  It will make you successful also.”

Parents, if you are going to good architects of character, and instill it in the lives of your children it’s extremely important that you also have it. A good architect finds it to his benefit to take advantage of conferences in which he learns of the new advances in technology.  Parents also need to learn.  Read good books on child training.  Seek advice.  Apply what the Bible teaches.  If the inheritance you leave to your children consists of nothing more than material things, you won’t have the joy of seeing them enjoy it.  But, if you leave them with strength of character, you will enjoy seeing them make wise decisions and be successful in life. Your children will be grateful.   “A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children’s children” (Proverbs 13:22).

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