Abused Women

September 14, 2013




Abused Women

            Women are God’s gift to men.  In Genesis 2:18 God said, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”  Then, in verses 21-22, we read that God took one of Adam’s ribs and made him a woman.  If a man can be happy without a wife, that’s fine.  Most men can’t.  Men should be grateful to God for their wives.  They add a very essential dimension to their lives.

Men who abuse their wives are hypocrites.  To win her, they didn’t spare words in telling her how precious she was and how much they loved her.  Unfortunately, sometime after the wedding, they start to violate their sacred trust by treating her as if she were a beast of burden to be used and abused.

I Peter 3:7 tells us some things that men need to know about women.  “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”  Men are to dwell with their wives “according to knowledge.”  Women are often abused because men are ignorant of a woman’s nature.  She is the “weaker vessel.”  Not only is she weaker physically, she is also weaker emotionally.  She can more easily be hurt by what you say or don’t say.  She needs affection.  Let her know how much you love and appreciate her.  Find ways of showing her that you love her.  Don’t ever give her reason for doubting your love for her.

Men, you and your wives are also “heirs together of the grace of life.” That means that you share life together.  There is satisfaction and consolation in sharing our joys and sorrows with one another.  There may be things you enjoy doing that she doesn’t enjoy.  There will be things she enjoys doing that you don’t enjoy.  You need to grant one another the privilege of doing those things unless they are hurtful or immoral.

Separation or divorce is a traumatic experience, both to men and women.  Women may be left with the feeling that they have some defect that makes them incapable of fulfilling their role as a woman.  Men may feel like they have been a failure in being what a man was meant to be.  Before a divorce is even considered, couples should seek counsel from a competent marriage counselor.  The ideal counselor is a wise, compassionate pastor who knows how to use the Bible to counsel married couples.  When there are marriage problems, nearly always there is fault on the part of both.  One may be more at fault than the other.

To be honest, we must face the fact that there are women who suffer because of defects in their personality and or behavior.  An increasing number of women are suffering because they accepted the invitation of a man who said, “Come and live with me.” Any woman who forgoes the solemnity and formality of a wedding ceremony is asking for trouble.  A man can promise to give you love and supply all your needs but, if he isn’t willing to make those promises in public by reciting the wedding vows in the hearing of your friends and relatives, there is reason to question his sincerity.  A marriage, done in God’s way, will be accompanied by God’s blessing.

At times men are also abused by their wives.  Proverbs 27:15 says, “A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.”  A wise man should be able to detect personality defects in a woman before he marries her.  Many men, either aren’t wise, or they are blinded by love.

Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”  Your wife isn’t to be used and abused.  She is to be loved and cherished.  If you give her the love and affection she deserves, you may be able to help her overcome some of her defects.  You also need to be attentive and receptive when she points out your defects.  Making those corrections can enhance; perhaps even save your marriage.

In our culture people are paid lucrative salaries for doing research in search of solutions to health problems.  That is well and good, but more and more people are suffering emotionally and little   is being said or written about it.  Perhaps people fear being criticized if they touch on moral issues.  The abuse that women suffer is nearly always because of immorality.  It will only get worse if the cause of the problem is ignored.

Our anti God, egotistical society is creating insurmountable emotional problems.  Women are not the only ones who are suffering.  A return to biblical standards would solve a multitude of problems.  God’s way is best for you and for our society.

Your comments are welcome.  Our e-mail address is: rusandmargaretgeorge@windstream.net






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